Focused on what matters

"From the deep still waters of wordless prayer, the next right step arises and I know what I must do.  Softening, breathing, opening, I am free."

“From the deep still waters of wordless prayer, the next right step arises and I know what I must do. Softening, breathing, opening, I am free.” – Lisa A. McCrohan

“How we spend our days, of course, is how we spend our lives.”

Annie Dillard

There are a hundred different things that vie for your attention in a day – maybe even before breakfast. A text alert sounds, an email arrives as you are checking your “in box,” a reminder bell chimes telling you to get to that meeting. With all these handy gadgets we can also feel them pull our attention away from what we are doing in the present moment. The lines between “work” and “home” can easily be blurred. And we can often feel like we are constantly “on.”

Being constantly “on” isn’t good for our nervous system, work-life balance, blood pressure…and we know this. Yet many of us get up each morning and run at full tilt. We are culture addicted to hurrying.

But each person I talk to – whether in counseling, coaching, or in a workshop – has shared that something deeper calls to them. There is an Inner Voice beneath the hurry, beneath the constant chaotic noise of the various bells and chimes we hear several times an hour, that calls us to wholeness. It calls us to focus on what really matters. Because, though our mainstream culture here in the U.S. doesn’t talk much about our mortality, the reality is that each one of us will some day cease to exist. This fact doesn’t have to be scary. It can be empowering.

I think of Mary Oliver’s famous words:

“Tell me, what is your plan to do with your one wild, precious life?”

Let it be a life that is focused on what matters. Not someday. Not tomorrow. Not when the house is clean, the “to do” list is done, you have enough money, you have enough “time,” or when your fears have dissolved. Let today, right now, this moment, be a new moment in which you focus on what really matters. Let this moment be your awakening.

Next Wednesday, October 8, 2014, at 12:55 p.m. (notice 5 minutes early!), we will have our next Mind Body Connections workshop, Getting Real, Getting Focused on What Matters. Please join us for a mindful reflection on your own life and how you want to live it.  Note:  We will meet in the Murray Room in Lauinger Library (5th floor).  Bring your ID or Go-card to enter the library.  Please come 10 minutes early, at 12:50, so we can start a bit early.  We’ll need to end a bit before 2 p.m. this time.

You can register here:

This post was written by Lisa A. McCrohan, MA, LICSW, RYT, Wellness Workshop Facilitator, psychotherapist, compassion coach and founder of Barefoot Barn.  .

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